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| A Broken Heart Doesn't Have to Cloud Your Life Forever |
“Can you
hypnotize me to forget about someone?” I hear that request more often than you might expect. The truth is hypnosis can't make you forget the one who caused you heartache. However, my intention in writing this article is to inspire you that you can use hypnosis as a powerful tool to help you understand your own personal journey and heal after a heartache.
The demise of a relationship, even one we know should or must end, can cause severe psychological and emotional stress. In shamanism, one of the oldest spiritual practices known to humankind, there is a core belief that when we suffer an emotional or physical trauma, a part our essence or soul flees the body in order to survive the experience. A shaman would be called in to perform a ritual called "Soul Retrieval" which was considered crucial to the person's healing process. As a hypnotherapist, I have had the honor to guide many clients through a similar sacred process to reclaim their energies, heal emotionally, and move forward.
In this article, I will share some brief stories of how hypnosis has helped my clients to heal after a break-up or divorce. (The names below have been changed for privacy.)
Stories of Betrayal Haunted Him: Jim had been divorced for two years. His wife had been the love of his life. She cheated on him with a best friend and the two went through a very bitter, ugly divorce. The whole experience left him "gun-shy" to date again for fear of getting hurt. "Logically, I know it's time to move on but it's not happening." In one very powerful hypnosis session, I guided Jim to release the negative emotions from his divorce and gain a much needed sense of closure helping him to feel free to move on. The Ex-Boyfriend Who Haunted Her Dreams: Carrie had been married for over ten years when she came to get help with recurring dreams about an ex-boyfriend. It had been years since the breakup of her college sweetheart and first love of her life. Despite time passing and marrying another man, she kept dreaming that she was back at school, desperately trying to find her first love. She would frequently wake up frustrated and sad. In our session, I guided Carrie to her own deeper wisdom where she understand the purpose of her recurring dream. She needed to reclaim her vulnerability and sensuality which she had disowned when that relationship ended. After our session, Carrie happily reported that the recurring dream ended and she felt lighter and more joyful than she had in years.
Obsession with the Other Man: Anne was married to a great guy. She described him as the perfect, loving, husband and father to their three children. Despite ideal circumstances, she found herself falling in love with another man she had met through work. Even though she knew it was wrong, she entered into a one night stand with the co-worker followed by a deep and intense emotional affair which they conducted via emails and texting. Anne knew that this love addiction would destroy her marriage if didn't stop. She sought help from me and was able to gain immediate clarity on the unconscious reasons that compelled her obsession. We worked together and she was able to end the affair and overcome her lifelong fears of true intimacy and vulnerability that comes in a deeply, committed, loving relationship.
She Couldn't Say Goodbye to a Soul Mate: Susan found herself stuck in a long-term relationship that she knew was unhealthy for her. Her boyfriend treated her disrespectfully, often criticizing her in public and flirting with other women in her presence. On several occasions, she had even caught him cheating with other women. Each time that she would end the relationship, deep feelings of abandonment and grief overwhelmed her and she would end up taking her unfaithful boyfriend back. "It doesn't make sense that I want to be with him. I feel like we are soul mates from a past life and that's why I can't let him go," Susan admitted.
I am Certified in Clinical Hypnotherapy and Past Life Regression Therapy so I knew this statement indicated the need for a past life regression session. Susan remembered two previous lives with this man. In both, they had been husband and wife and circumstances had caused his untimely death which left her feeling devastated and alone. After hypnosis, Susan felt empowered to end her relationship with this man in this life.
These cases are just a few examples of the after effects caused by the mental and emotional stress from a painful break-up or divorce. Here are some common symptoms that can be related to unresolved pain or grief:- Feeling Emotionally Detached or Numb
- Habitual Replaying of Past Conversations or Memories
- Debilitating Fear of Getting Hurt Again
- Obsession with the Lost Lover
- Grief that Has Not Healed
- Anger that Doesn’t Dissipate or Transfers to Other People in Your Life
- Problems with Forgiveness
- Victim Mentality
- Insomnia or Stressful Dreams Related to the Break-Up
- Headaches and Other Physical Problems
- Post Traumatic Stress
- Manifestation or Worsening of Addictions to Numb Emotional Loss and Pain
- Immune System Deficiencies Caused by PTSD
- Hopelessness or Depression
- Feel Like a Part of You is Dead or Gone
Carolyn Myss, the best-selling author of several books on the subject of the mind-body connection to health and healing believes the emotional energy we divert focusing on painful memories, or in our efforts to suppress them, is the single most common cause of illness and disease.
If these stories speak to your heart and you are interested in incorporating hypnosis into your own personal healing journey, then reach out to me. Are you ready to heal your heart, get over a love addiction, and get on with a great life? Want to receive the personalized and high quality work that and countless other clients have received over the last 20 years? (You’re in the right place!)
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I just had an amazing session with a client yesterday. She is married now for over a decade and has one child. She was worried that some part of her still wanted to be with an old boyfriend because she was thinking of him and had recently dreamed that her husband turned into an image of the ex-boyfriend.
ReplyDeleteIn her hypnosis session, she realized that she had left her energetic, powerful, excited for life self back at the time and place of the break-up. I guided her through a beautiful imagery of reclaiming this aspect and the first word out of her mouth after the session was "WOW!" She called it a Breakthrough. I call it a beautiful testament to the power of the divine feminine to empower us to gain clarity, insight and healing in a loving, nurturing way!
can hypnosis help a person who is still in a good relationship but there was one case of infedelity in the past that they cant seem to let go.
ReplyDeleteGreat question! Yes, hypnosis can help you move past infidelity Andrew:) First, it might be helpful to understand that your inner mind is very protective. It's goal is for physical, mental, and emotional survival. It uses your memories to help you avoid danger. In other words, we hold on to and even replay upsetting memories as an inherent way of survival.
ReplyDeleteBack in cave man days, if a person almost got attacked by a sabertooth tiger, the memory is held in there, to warn the caveman to avoid similar danger and preserve the species.
In modern times, you might find someone who was bit by a dog while very young that then has a deep fear of all dogs as an adult because the subconscious is doing its job saying, "Dogs are dangerous."
A similar thing happens with emotional traumas. When someone betrays us in love, even if our logical mind wants to move past the upset, your subconscious is saying, "Watch out. Keep your guard up. This person has hurt you before."
Hypnosis can help you clear the negative emotion around a person or memory. You won't be hypnotized to forget but instead to reframe how you respond to that infidelity so that you feel empowered and in ownership of your own feelings and responses instead of reactive to someone else and your memories with them.
Warmest regards,
Rebecca
My husband had an affair and I want to move past it, but I am very hurt and angry and sad. Can I get help with this! Can my husband answer questions under hypnosis, to help give me closure? Thank you :)
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for the torture you have been going through. Affairs are so devastating to our souls. I believe that the only thing we can do after is to resolve ourselves to take back our power, our happiness, and the pieces of our soul that were taken. And it can only happen if we get counseling and do the deeper work of healing on the level of the emotions and spirit. So yes, you can get help. First, I would suggest that you two seek marriage counseling together if you are going to stay together. And then, you can use hypnosis to do your own inner work. Unfortunately, nothing he will ever say can heal that for YOU. Counseling and hypnosis are a wonderful compliment to each other for getting closure. In order to answer your last question, I would need more information. Why would your husband need to be hypnotized to answer questions? You can answer here or email me privately. Thank you for reaching out to me. I would be happy to help you:)
ReplyDeleteWhere are you located?
ReplyDeleteHi Deniqua,
ReplyDeleteI am in Charleston, South Carolina. I work with clients at a distance by phone and teleseminars. You can book a phone session online at www.charlestonhypnotherapy.com/genbook
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ReplyDeleteThis is probably going to sound really stupid, but I'm really struggling to get over someone.
I'd met my best friends brother a couple of times over the last couple of years and really liked him; I even had a bit of a crush, but nothing was ever going to happen because he was married and I accepted that.
Back in October he discovered that she was having an affair and he ended their marriage. A couple of weeks later he started talking to me, I was a kind of support and shoulder and then the night before his sister's graduation he told me that he liked me too, had done for a while.
We started seeing each other and I really fell for him which is a total miracle for me as I really struggle with guys.
We had an amazing time together over a few months and he told me he loved me and then a couple of weeks later...he dropped me! I then discovered that he was seeing someone else.
It's been six months and I'm still so hurt. I still think about him all the time and see/hear his name everywhere. He's moved on and never coming back, but no matter how hard I try I can't seem to let go of him.
I've been getting counselling and it's helped in some areas but I still can't let go of him, the hurt and the upset.
Sorry for the long winded explanation, but would hypnosis help me?
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ReplyDeleteYes, Kym, I can hear how devastated you are and even feel it in the energy of your words. I think hypnosis would help. As you read in my article, we can know logically we need to move on but there are certain deeper aspects of us that will keep us obsessed with someone we used to love or have deep connection with, even if we know that person is not right for us or has moved on. I believe we can be addicted to people as easily as drugs, alcohol or candy bars:)
ReplyDeleteI do work with clients from all over the country! It is just as effective as if you are actually in my office! Email me today to schedule your free 30 minute consultation to find out how I can help you to Heal Your Heart and Attract True Love! Call (843) 597-9200
Dear Ms. Shaw:
ReplyDeleteOver this summer I experienced a traumatic, I wouldn't say heartbreak yet, but very close to it. In the beginning of the summer, a guy I knew who I had been somehow involved with came back into my life. I was still with my current boyfriend back then. He first started with a few texts but then it turned into everyday conversations. I tried to shake him off but he kept telling me he adored me and had feelings for me. Not only was I taken but so was he. I was very confused because I would have dreams of him, I would crave his texts every day and his name was constantly on my mind. I felt horrible so I ended my relationship with my boyfriend. After awhile, he still kept contacting me, I was so vulnerable that I ended up sleeping with him twice even tho he belongs to someone else. He then started showing his true colors and I became the obsessive woman who I started to recent. I have cut all contact with him but I still think of him even tho I am back with my boyfriend. I love my boyfriend but I am obsessed with this guy. I want to know how can I heal myself and realize that he is trouble for me and will never make me happy.
Dear Glenny,
ReplyDeleteI am sorry that you have had to suffer this type of experience. Believe me, you can heal yourself. And you can do that without even saying he's trouble. You can say he's not a match for you. What you've got to work on now is your own self-worth and self-esteem. All those wonderful texts were doing that job but when we look to someone outside of ourselves to prop us up and make us feel good and make us feel wanted and worthy, it is always a recipe for eventual pain and suffering. A huge part of the work that I do with people is to address this aspect of owning your own self-worth and beginning the healing process of activating that within. Again we can know that's what needs to be done but knowing intellectually that he's not good for you and knowing intellectually you deserve better doesn't always mean you feel that way on the deeper levels of the subconscious mind and the emotions. You want to work on your beliefs about yourself, your worthiness, and what you deserve when it comes to love and if they are not positive, that's where you begin:)
Love and light,
Rebecca
A potential client wanted to know how long I've been doing this work to help people use hypnosis to move past heartache and break up. The answer is 20 years! I have just in the past couple years packaged this into a program called Heal Your Heart to make this unique and powerful work more visible on the internet. Thank you all for your inquiries!
ReplyDeleteIm so emotionally drained and devastated by a breakup that was so abruptly ended; literally one day hugs and kisses and normal self to the next after a tiny tiny tift, he moves out and is done with me...like a dirty towel. I haven't heard a single word and he doesn't respond to any messages (I didnt go crazy but I have messaged him). I am losing weight because I cant eat, I take anxiety medicine so I can sleep and I rarely want to go in public for fear of seeing him, especially with someone else. My entire life has completely flipped upside down and he is over there enjoying life and being a single free man again, doing lord knows what. And I obsess about it, constantly, and get these visuals that I cant even begin to describe how awful it feels. I cannot shake him in any way no matter how hard I try. Im completely wesk and pretty much pathetic. All I want is to be over this person I intended on spending the rest of my life with and who promised the same. I dont need to forget what happened or hin as a person...I just want this fear and need to have him back, gone...I feel like im becoming physically ill and I need to get this out of my life...is there even any hooe to accomplish that? He is so ingrained in my head and im so weak when it comes to the subject of him that I feel hypotherapy wont
ReplyDeleteeven help :/
Hi miss shaw how much do your sessions cost? Im going through a hard break up we was together 3 years and its never really been a good relationship he puts me down all the time leaves every few months and then returns he wont commit and im 29 I want children and to settle down. Im in a time where hes left he will be back but I want the strength to be able to say no this time because I feel I cant take anymore. Id like to also know why ive held on so long. Can you please email me more info about your services at carlylanera85@hotmail.co.uk many thanks x
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